Deborah L. Tillman on Instagram: "Backtalk isn’t a behavior problem. It’s a boundary feedback loop failure. When a child argues, questions, or resists your instructions, they’re not challenging your authority — they’re testing the system. Strategic homes don’t respond emotionally. They respond with structure. Here’s the framework high-functioning families implement: 1. Redirect tone. “I’ll respond when your tone matches mine.” Stay calm. Do not escalate. 2. Restate the instruction once. No debat